Mastering The Art of Communication
How about those times when you’re on the receiving end of a conversation you weren’t prepared for?
The way you listen and respond makes all the difference.
The safer the environment you can create, the safer your partner will feel to express themselves now and in the future. How you react will set the foundation for how forthcoming they will be. And isn’t trust and honesty what we all claim to want in our relationships?
When something comes your way that’s hard to hear or deal with, breathe. Take a moment to breathe in deeply and breathe out slowly. The better you get at that on the daily, the more equipped you’ll be for the bigger stuff that comes along (this is where meditation comes in handy).
Be aware that reactions like yelling, judging and/or basically “losing it” can and will stifle the flow of honesty in your relationship. The person becomes fearful of telling the truth, or at least, intensely hesitant. So, they hold onto pieces of information; and when you find out, you feel mad, hurt and betrayed. You have to recognize your part in this.
The ability to remain calm in the face of any storm is a direct reflection of your emotional maturity and it’s a skill that’ll help you create more open and honest relationships.
If the truth is important to you, then it’s not only a matter of being able to dish it out; it’s just as much about taking it in. In other words, don’t be scary.